–Deborah Sichel, _Women’s Moods_
“I feel like my nerves are exposed, on the surface,” says the woman on the radio, “and the least little thing will set them jangling.”
She is talking about menopause, but I know how she feels. I’m good-humoured, until I’m in a homicidal rage. I’m easy-going until I spend a day with tears and snot running down my face. I’m reasonable until I become convinced that the world is a cruel place and I’m going to die destitute and unloved and it’s all YOUR fault.
When I am PMSing I can’t stand being in my own skin. Literally. I have to get away from this place (wherever it is) and from these people (whoever they are). I would get away from myself if I could. Nothing can please me, and the attempt to please me, if undisguised, makes me feel murderous loathing towards the perpetrator. I am unbearably sad.
I’m not exaggerating, for once.
An alien takes the wheel. Cleverly, she makes me believe finally I see clearly, that the calm contentment I feel ordinarily is pathetically misguided. Cleverly, she throws in a few real-world setbacks for a hungry brain to gnaw on like a bone. Under her influence I bounce with pent-up aggression, then I’m too listless to move. I feel destructive. I can’t concentrate on anything but misery. It seems perfectly reasonable, now that the blinkers have been removed, to respond this way to such a horrible world.
I get by. Strangers are easier to deal with than close friends. Co-workers jangle me less than beloveds–though a small suggestion or the wrong kind of look can send me sniffling in the supply closet. I remember that I really probably should do a yoga class. I want chocolate.
Then I get my period. And feel stupid, every time, for not realizing my own body had declared war again. The outside world ticks on as it always had, and I try to get back into it. I apologize to the man I hurt, and we are both sad. I finish the work project I tossed aside in hopelessness or rage.
It doesn’t happen every month. Then it would be easy to track and fix, I suppose. My cycle is irregular anyway, and sometimes I just feel mild misery rather than raging sadness. But when I surface from a bad dose, I wonder how many marriages PMS wrecks, how many children are puzzled and upset when Mum turns into a crazy harpy. PMS has many sufferers, and not all of them are women. But what are you supposed to do?